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2009-11-27T23:19:35.216-05:00

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Thank you everyone for stopping by! Mary It doesn...

2009-10-13T19:07:30.928-05:00

Thank you everyone for stopping by!

Mary It doesn't matter. I admit I have my days (more than I like to admit) but in the grand scheme of things does it really matter? no it doesn't you are so right!

bridget
I am sorry to hear that. I KINDA (on a tiny scale) know what you mean. I worked with a bunch of japanese girls before and they often talked about this.

margaret
Don't you want to say "honey do yourself a favor ignore the size and go one or two up, sizes are funny here anyways!"

meli22 I don't know but I know someone who does it and I want to say NO PLEASE you are only hurting yourself!

peldyn I am too much a lady to link tp them and call them but but a little googling you might find some. ;)

shopkim here here!

lesa I am glad I could help anyone at any time!

I found your blog via Nubby and fiiiirst of all......

2009-10-12T09:40:41.958-05:00

I found your blog via Nubby and fiiiirst of all..... You look absolutely adorable. That dress fits you perfectly and the socks are such a nice touch!

But yea, as someone who rambles about body image a lot, this post really hit home with me. It's also awkward because I 4'9, I am a smaller size, and I feel like I have to worry when I complain about my weight or talk about exercising because my friends just go "Pftttt you're a size 2."

And that's what makes it funny. I'm not skinny. I mean I'm not overweight either, but I'm not skinny. I'm average. Sometimes I like myself, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I'm a 4. Sometimes I'm a 0. Sometimes I'm a 6. But everyone forgets that are 4'9, my proportions are different so in reality a 5'9 person in an 8 is much thinner than me.

It's funny that your weight doesn't matter anyways, but if you're going to make it an issue dress sizes are probably one of the worst ways to compare because everyone's so different!

psst: the one above was me, but there was an awkward typo.

2009-10-12T09:39:14.397-05:00

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I totally hear what you're saying. I wish I co...

2009-10-09T06:21:24.984-05:00

I totally hear what you're saying. I wish I could just go around and tell people my clothing sizes without having them act like I'm some kind of freak of nature or something. However, I live in Japan... and I'm just all around bigger than... well.. every woman I've ever met here. Seriously, I've never met a woman here who is as tall as me, with hips as wide as mine or with a bust as big as mine. I'm just a big girl! It's not like I'm overweight or anything, I'm just... big! Anyway, I frequently get asked my clothing size (by friends, coworkers, complete strangers... apparently it's not at all taboo to ask a foreigner their clothing size...) when Japanese women ask me what size I wear, it's mostly because they're curious, and so that they can go and blab about the fact that they met the big foreign girl to their girlfriends or husbands or whatever. I'm serious. People treat me like such an oddity that I absolutely refuse to be treated as such. Therefore, when I get asked this question, I usually have to explain that they probably would not understand American sizing, and I therefore cannot share the information with them.
Sigh. I wish I wish!

I was shopping at H&M recently and a group of ...

2009-09-26T09:16:06.829-05:00

I was shopping at H&M recently and a group of young women were trying on clothes. The jeans didn't fit one of them and her friend said, "Oh try on the next size up" but the woman said "No, that's not my size". As a 50 year old who could care less what the tag says, I was so flabbergasted, could not understand the logic here. Her slightly older friend said, "oh I think they must run small here" in an attempt to move the process along....but no luck. Could she not hang such clothes in her closet because they had the wrong number? When "my size" doesn't fit me, I presume the store has some problem with standard sizing and I just keep going up and up and up UNTIL it fits or I leave....

size doesn't matter, I agree. I WAS a 2/3 a fe...

2009-09-26T08:54:19.727-05:00

size doesn't matter, I agree. I WAS a 2/3 a few years ago, now I range from a 6 to an 8. I actually feel better about my body now than then. If I went into a store, I would start with my normal 6 and size up or down from there, but rarely do I need to.

WHY would anyone buy a size they don't fit? Some girls tell themselves 'I am going to lose weight' but most never do, or at least not in the areas they want to. It's sad really, that they reject themselves and their bodies because they believe that what they are isn't beautiful or that a number dictates how acceptable they are. I favor Stacy & Clinton's quote- dress for the body you have NOW, not the one you want to have.

Wow, I too never heard of someone posting tags wit...

2009-09-26T00:26:04.526-05:00

Wow, I too never heard of someone posting tags with sizes, but I believe you. There are enough women out there obsessed with being small and it is sad.

I completely agree that there is absolutely no rea...

2009-09-23T06:38:43.759-05:00

I completely agree that there is absolutely no reason to lie about it. Just don't mention it! Besides that, it's so subjective. You could be a size X in one store and three sizes bigger in another. WHO CARES!!

Thanks for making me feel good. I was a thin girl ...

2009-09-22T19:26:56.997-05:00

Thanks for making me feel good. I was a thin girl all my life then I hit 40 and BAM I am a 14. Only problem, it is harder to find cute clothes, especially if your thrifting.

BTW LOVE the little Chinese socks, do you wear them with those shoes? How cute!

2009-09-22T19:26:40.664-05:00

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Oh you HAVE to go they have an entire section of a...

2009-09-22T19:26:30.191-05:00

Oh you HAVE to go they have an entire section of accessories under 10 bucks!

Good to know, I will definitely check them out! I...

2009-09-22T19:20:42.948-05:00

Good to know, I will definitely check them out! I always thought I won't be able to afford anything from there, so I never go.

Lisa that is exactly what I was trying to stress i...

2009-09-22T18:15:49.884-05:00

Lisa that is exactly what I was trying to stress its just a number that isn't standardized!

Aren't you near boston? Check out Marc Jacobs on newbury they have 70% off shoe sales when the new season comes in!

I'm with you on your rant! One thing I do wan...

2009-09-22T15:49:13.401-05:00

I'm with you on your rant! One thing I do want to point out is that your size can vary a lot by the store/brand. Not that it excuses blatant lying about your size, but I currently have clothes in a range of sizes, and when I compare them, they are exactly the same . . . huh?? I think the best tactic is to just avoid sharing that info in general. Who really cares anyway? I don't . . . anyways, I'm extremely envious of your shoes!

HMM... NOW you have me doing google searches...

2009-09-22T15:30:55.982-05:00

HMM... NOW you have me doing google searches...

Sal I was FLABBERGASTED when I saw it. She has a l...

2009-09-22T15:14:42.447-05:00

Sal I was FLABBERGASTED when I saw it. She has a lot of readers too. It was all too weird to me but I couldn't look away.

Man, I have never seen anyone take a photo of a si...

2009-09-22T15:13:35.086-05:00

Man, I have never seen anyone take a photo of a size tag and post it. That is downright weird. And I totally agree that if you're gonna talk size, be honest. If you're not comfortable talking size, just DON'T. Why lie?

I weigh a good 20 lbs more than people (even my do...

2009-09-22T14:44:50.881-05:00

I weigh a good 20 lbs more than people (even my doctor) have guessed. I'd say I'm dense, but that'd sound bad!!

I'm between sizes right now (12 and 14) because I drank too much beer on my honeymoon but there's no shame in it, sisters!

There's one blog in particular (not gonna name names) and it drives me NUTS. "Oh this size 4 is too small but here I am in the 2 but I forgot to take a pic of the tag." My ass you're a 2. Be real about it.

I too don't know why some poeple do this. I ...

2009-09-22T14:41:12.684-05:00

I too don't know why some poeple do this.

I am a size 14-18 depending on the clothing. I look much smaller than what I am. It shocks poeple when I tell them how much I weigh.

hahaha if that works I'll just post all my mea...

2009-09-22T14:29:31.286-05:00

hahaha if that works I'll just post all my measurements and let the swag roll in! LOL

kelly. You know why? Its weird! Unless your saying...

2009-09-22T14:25:10.128-05:00

kelly. You know why? Its weird! Unless your saying it so potential stores will see it and send you stuff :P haaa.

I totally agree with you. I've seen some blogg...

2009-09-22T14:22:54.267-05:00

I totally agree with you. I've seen some bloggers do this and I don't know why - if you don't want to tell me how big you are that's *fine* I couldn't give less of a damn, but then don't make it a subject on your blog. Just say "This is my new dress" instead of "this is my new size 4 dress."

I'm not averse to talking about my size/weight but I guess I've never seen an occasion for it on my blog.

bridgett I don't get what you mean it depends ...

2009-09-22T14:19:04.188-05:00

bridgett I don't get what you mean it depends I guess. I don't think it is ever ok.
In your case that you mention it makes sense as I said to say nothing as opposed to lying about it. It is the lying that bothers me. I live my life trying to never lie. It is a really big deal to me actually.

and I have been "larger" (larger than what is the reason I quote) so I do get it, really I do. As you see in my description above the purse is from reaching my goal in Weight Watchers.

I think we should all adopt a policy that if we don't want to discuss it we turn the subject around

"I'd love to answer that but first tell me how make money you make"

"Wow that's really a personal matter better left between me and my doctor now don't ya think?"

i get what you are saying but as a larger lady, i ...

2009-09-22T14:12:53.242-05:00

i get what you are saying but as a larger lady, i think it really depends. i am a size 22 and weigh over 200 lbs and i honestly do not think that most people realize i weigh that much. i have talked to friends and they thought i was a size 14 or weighed 180 lbs.

i have accepted what i weigh and buy clothes to fit and flatter me, but i still don't want to advertise, especially when numbers above 200 lbs can be judged so harshly.